Sense pleasures
Humans are so attached to sense pleasures that apart from a tiny handful of them, they do not even want to hear about the passage that leads behind the scenes of these so-called pleasures.
Kassinou the debunker
They are quite right! What is wrong with doing oneself good? The beautiful things in the world are there for us to enjoy, aren't they? Why deprive oneself of them?
If you enjoy being in prison (samsaric), good for you! When I was in prison (jail), I sometimes got delicious fruit, good reading material, and could play sports with very friendly inmates. Yet I was relieved when my release was announced. And even then, the image is weak; the difference is dizzyingly vaster between the prison of the senses and liberation from the senses, compared to that between incarceration and judicial freedom. Moreover, many "free" people suffer far more than incarcerated people.
The trouble is that whatever I say to you, as long as your mind takes pleasure in sense pleasures, you will not have the will to seek the way out of prison.
In case you are almost ready to hear the Blessed One's teaching, know that pleasure does not exist as the mind conceives it; it is only a mirage, a kind of hallucination, a mental excitement at best, whose carrot is only a trail of brief moments of dopamine. The world of the senses is both attractive and empty, like a beautiful balloon, it is just the cleverest movie set ever. If you were used to observing your mind closely, my dear Kassinou, you would see how neither your body nor your mind will ever be able to provide you with a perception or a sensation that is truly worthwhile. The Buddha could not have been clearer on this subject:
The Buddha said:
"The body is nothing but a nest of miseries."
The problem with pleasure and comfort is that one gets used to them immediately, whereas it is very difficult afterwards to do without them. Consequently, when one loses a pleasure or comfort (which is inevitable at some point), one suffers. That is why it is better not to acquire bad habits.
So what, according to you, could be preferable to the most beautiful pleasures of our world?
Even the most intense pleasure is only a fleeting excitement, the cry of satisfaction of one stepping into a cool bath after a long scorching day. And the attachment that clings to pleasure is only a nervous tic. It is a grave mistake to mistake pleasure for happiness. Pleasure results from an excitement that sticks to its desired object. Happiness, on the contrary, results from a calming that unsticks from any object.
The itching metaphor
Metaphor
Desire is very comparable to an itch, and pleasure to scratching oneself. When one scratches, one feels relieved in the moment, but it contributes to exacerbating the itch. The itch is suffering, but one is so attached to the fleeting sensation of relief from scratching that one sees it as desirable and remains blind to the rest of the process. Yet it is clearly preferable not to have an itch, isn't it?
It is exactly the same with desire and pleasure. The one who is detached from everything no longer feels the need to scratch because they no longer have any itch. In other words, they no longer feel the need for pleasures because they no longer have any desire. Freed from all itching, they taste true happiness. They no longer need "relief".
Assuming that the happiness generated by the cessation of pleasures is superior to the joy provided by pleasures, what is your magic recipe for getting there?
What I recommend is to abandon the cause of "the itch"! Namely: wrong views, incorrect vision of reality, the illusory belief that pleasure offers healthy and lasting happiness and that it is worth all the effort one devotes to it. To achieve this, there is only one way: the combined practice of restraint and introspection.
Restraint and introspection
Restraint
Restraint is, on the one hand, refraining from anything that is harmful to others and to oneself, and on the other hand, renouncing anything that consumes resources (energy, effort, time, natural resources, etc.) and brings nothing useful to one's spiritual development, health, means of subsistence, or useful knowledge. In short, one refrains from all futile or unhealthy activities.
It is not about letting go of everything overnight, but about gradually assimilating each renunciation, exactly like the high jump bar being raised little by little. If one were to raise the bar from 1 meter to 3 meters all at once, it would be dangerous.
Introspection
Introspection is the contemplation of one's mind. It involves being vigilant (first of all at times) in the moment, carefully and in detail, so as to understand each mental process, to know directly how sensations and reactions appear and disappear, to gradually become capable of deep discernment about the formation of perceptions.
The consequence will be to observe through one's own experience the many psycho-mental traps of which we are almost constantly the slaves, whose roots are desire, aversion, and blindness (lobha, dosa and moha respectively in Pali).
And why are you giving us a whole sermon on itching, restraint, and introspection, when the title is "
The middle way"?
Well precisely — I'm getting to it, don't worry! — it is restraint and introspection that place us on what the Buddha calls "the middle way", and the pursuit of itches that takes us away from it.
The path to the middle way
Nonsense! The middle way is what I do every day! And I don't need penance or clear vision. I taste a bit of everything without ever overdoing it. Neither too much comfort nor too little, same for my meals, my distractions, my passions, my hookups… I'm right in the middle!
So according to you, the one who lives in the middle way is a perfect redneck, who does a little bit of everything, drinks a little, fishes a little, cheats a little… The middle way is not a statistical average of what the majority of humans do. In the context of the Noble Path that leads to ultimate Peace, the middle way consists of carefully avoiding all extremes, through the abandonment of everything that is not essential and with the help of keen discernment.
You're the one talking about avoiding extremes? That's a good one! With your renunciant lifestyle, I don't know anyone more radical and extreme than you!
Many see ascetics as "extreme" individuals (I am not talking about those who adopt practices that are extreme, in that case, but about reasonable ascetics, like the monks of the Buddha's community or those who follow a similar way of life).
The majority of people live in such a fog of desires and inconsistencies that anyone leading an existence of detachment and virtue seems excessive to them. It is the frame of reference of those who live without restraint and without discernment that is skewed. A wise ascetic is not extreme, quite the contrary! Here clearly are what the two extremes are and the Middle Way recommended by the Buddha…
The Middle Way and the two extremes
The extreme of comfort (tending towards "+100")
This is giving too much to one's body and mind. This is by far the most followed extreme. One seeks to enjoy pleasures, to obtain possessions, to wield power.
The extreme of this extreme, for example, is the malicious billionaire who, regardless of the misery he generates, devotes himself exclusively to his pleasure by investing body and soul in sense pleasures and entertainment.
Who tends towards this extreme? The vast majority of humans, including most "monks"! The great masters of this extreme are capitalist spirits who accumulate and make inaccessible to those who need it the common good, in quantities far greater than they could ever use themselves during their entire lifetime.
The extreme of privation (tending towards "-100")
This is depriving one's body and mind too much. This extreme is more followed than one might suspect. One seeks to do without everything, to undereat, to neglect oneself, to fight sleep, to cost nothing at all.
The extreme of this extreme, for example, is the excessively pious religious person, who believes that the more radically they renounce everything, the more they will gain a heavenly reward in the afterlife.
Who tends towards this extreme? All ascetics with wrong views who practice severe privations, those who have themselves crucified in the hope that it will bring them closer to the god they have been conditioned to venerate, but also all kinds of individuals not necessarily believers, who self-punish for all sorts of reasons, who think they deserve nothing, who believe that humility consists of inflicting lack upon oneself, or who, among other things, forget themselves in the equation of generosity, believing that this state of mind consists of depriving oneself in order to leave everything to others.
The Middle Way (approaching "0")
This is giving just what is needed to one's body and mind. This is the path of right balance. The only extreme of this path is the minuscule number of its "followers".
There is by definition no extreme in the middle way. The good example is, of course, the monk — the authentic renunciant, not the buffoon who wears a monastic robe — who takes only what his body needs to be healthy, contenting himself with few things, without ever losing a moment in frivolities.
Observing the 10 precepts (even without the one that consists of renouncing money) already places us well on the middle way. After this essential foundation, it is mindful vigilance in the present moment that can make a great difference. Why? Because thoughts alone can suffice to plunge us into attachments, anxiety, and blindness.
Experience of the Middle Way
If I can speak of the middle way much more precisely and effectively than if I had read the writings of many great masters on the subject, this is because I have been experiencing it myself for a good thirty years (except when I was making films or looking at girls a bit too much!), and, apart from benefits hardly describable, with simple observation, I see that this balance gradually refines itself, like learning a language that refines itself with just a little listening…
When one tends, even slightly, towards one of the two extremes, one inevitably ends up experiencing periods of suffering. On the other hand, by establishing oneself in the middle way, the suffering inherent to existence is considerably reduced. In the eyes of the majority, one is perceived as a practitioner of the extreme of privation, while enjoying a fairly constant mental comfort, such as those who practice the extreme of total comfort could only dream of.
By living the middle way, one rejects all extremes, takes only what is healthy and useful, and abandons everything that is unhealthy and useless. One eats when the body needs it and not for pleasure, one sleeps and dresses with the same purpose, one discards everything that is not necessary, including distractions, social relationships, and discussions not beneficial to spiritual development.
Personal experience
During my 14 months of incarceration in a Burmese prison, despite a poorly balanced diet and a dormitory that is far from a 3-star hotel, I lived rather well and calmly, overall, unlike most other inmates. This I owe precisely to my habit of remaining close to the middle way. Trusting in the Dhamma, I was content with little. I often even had the impression of being in a serious monastery: no women, no internet connection, forbidden to go outside for a walk…
When I am well established in the Middle Way, the most characteristic thing I notice is that we no longer revolve around anything; it is the elements that revolve around us!
The Middle Way is a flexible and reasonable balance…
- between renunciation and necessity,
- between effort and relaxation,
- between discipline and tolerance.
It requires right understanding, the kind that wisdom brings. Of course, the Middle Way involves virtue, that is, the observance of the precepts where one refrains from any harmful intention, speech, and action. In such a way of life, everything is done to naturally welcome meditation, that is, the full and peaceful vigilance of what is perceived in the moment, and mental stability (often clumsily translated as "concentration").
Metaphor
This Way is like the squirrel that stands on the branch, without letting itself fall forward towards the good seeds placed by the hunters, nor backward into the fire, and it is not rigid, otherwise the wind would push it one way or the other; it adapts to the wind so as to remain well balanced.
Important note: Some follow the extreme of comfort at times, and the extreme of privation at others. Even if on average they tend towards "0", they are nowhere near the middle way, which involves a constant approach to "0". It would be like taking a boiling bath one moment and an icy bath the next; the result would not be the same as constantly bathing in water at the right temperature.
The middle way is everything! It is nothing less than the greatest discovery made by the wisest of humans before his Awakening. The Buddha had bathed in the extreme of comfort, before practicing the extreme of mortification more than anyone else. Once he had discovered the middle way, he reached Awakening at the following dawn.
And here, I would have appreciated it if you had asked me: «And how does one go about approaching the middle way?».
In your dreams! My "middle" suits me just fine!
Fine, let's pretend you did ask that question, so here is the answer: To approach the middle way, one eliminates everything that prevents it. It is not a special state, but the natural state of the balanced, healthy, and "cleansed" mind.
It is the weight of our desires, rejections, and blindnesses that prevents our mind from peacefully remaining in the middle way.
The most effective "cleaning product" was already mentioned earlier in this article: it is the combined practice of restraint and introspection. There is no doubt about it; as long as you train yourself to abandon futile activities or those related to pleasure (pure distraction, games that do not require thought, evening meals, sex, music…) keeping only those that are useful (morning meals, regular sleep without excess, simple sports, fruitful reading, constructive discussions…), you will draw closer to the Way recommended by the Buddha; that of the middle way.
"Abandon what is related to pleasures"? Did you see your eyes sparkling with desire when you savored the delicious cheeses you were offered last week? That's how you "abandon what is related to pleasures"?
You usually always fall asleep before the end of my sermons, you! And don't amplify your perceptions! Anyway, I never said I was exactly at "0.000" of the middle way, did I?
The main advantages of the Middle Way
- One obtains everything one needs without effort.
- One is very protected, one has no worries.
- One enjoys the best conditions for meditation.
- One enjoys a life where everything glides peacefully.
- One is respected and appreciated.
- One is untouchable, because one is in the right.
- One progresses by leaps and bounds towards nibbāna, the complete liberation of the mind.